Just last night I was talking to a woman who was telling me about her 55 year old brother who still is not working and is living at home.
This is more common than you think, but that doesn’t make it right. When your daughter was young, you undoubtedly had to say no to her at times about something because you knew it was for her own good.
She isn’t acting to change her situation because it is too difficult and uncomfortable for her to try to work.
If you don’t act to correct your situation, it is because it is too hard and uncomfortable too. If you don’t act now, you may need to plan on supporting her, her children and someday maybe a husband for the rest of their lives, just like the parents of the 55 year old man I mentioned at first.
This is probably one of the top 5 questions I get asked.
If you think you must, you can feed them and provide a roof for them but don’t pay any of her bills or give her a penny for anything, except what you need to pay on the co-signed loan to keep your credit ok.
I am only trying to get you to look at things in a different way, to look at things honestly and to see what your options are.
Second, you are not alone wondering what to do when adult children won’t leave home.
I’m afraid this is one of those life lessons with consequences. You know your situation better than I do so you will have to consider all of these options and decide for yourself what you should do.
You might want to start at step 1 or, if it is bad enough, you might have to start at step 3.
That is exactly what is happening here and, like any blackmail, it will drain you completely before long.