If there have been no phone calls or dates where he takes you out and spends quality time (and money) on you, guess what? And your guy is trying to find that delicate balance of keeping you in his life without you falling hard for him. Best of luck in the future.” He’ll do one of two things: 1) Pick up the phone and call you because you have a burgeoning relationship that’s worth preserving and he can’t stand to let you go.
This is why I’m saying that men are being honest with you.
Listen, we’re just as shocked as you are when you sleep with us on a second date.
But, as you know, this doesn’t mean we want a relationship with you. Pay attention to how he handles himself in the next 24-48 hours. Understand that he DOESN’T want you to fall in love with him.
You may go out with him again, but you’re not all that into it. Are you a commitmentphobe who has no interest in marriage? And if that’s the case, and we sleep with you based on attraction alone, regardless of whether we have actual FEELINGS for you, it tends to get a little dicey.
In short, to keep the peace and avoid conflict, you either do the slow fade (not calling him back immediately), or you continue to see him with reservations about your attraction and excitement. Are you fickle and always looking for someone better? This is not me DEFENDING men; this is me, EXPLAINING men.
I’m not saying that you can’t be friends, or have casual sex with a guy if you want to.
” If he’s already planning his exit strategy, he’s not going to say, “I think we made a mistake. If you start listening to their silences, you can finally hear the whole truth.Let’s explain both of these traps individually and why different kinds of women fall into them. It’s typically seen as something that afflicts men more commonly, but it happens to women as well.